Urmi silently kept staring at the birds, chirping outside her window.. with tears rolling down her cheeks.
Though, her lips stayed mum, but her heart cried out a repeated “why..??” from within, all day long.
Called me up, and detailed me everything whatever happened and how she felt from within.
Me – “I warned you beforehand sweetie, this was going to happen to you too. I knew it as I knew him also, so well. This was the actual He. Now you know..?? He befriends people and leaves them midway, specially the girls, the soft hearted ones. That too, without any reason. Must be he gets bored very easily, it’s a kind of psychological sickness. He has done the same even with some of the boys of our group. He’s too selfish to be friends with anyone. He’s too clever, when he needs someone to pass his free times, to cheer himself up, to boost himself and his ego up and he’s done.
So, please,.. He’s not the friend, who deserves your time on regretting or missing, nor even thinking about him any further, sweety..!!”
( Urmi’s closest friend Sanjay, whom she really respected as the best of all her friends. He judged her. Yes, he judged her. She could have answered him back right then and there, but she chose not to. He made some very lame and judgemental comment about her attitude towards their friendship. He directly accused her of being weird and incorrigible, doubted her sanity in two long sentences, which knocked her pretty hard. She couldn’t forget as she felt terribly insulted. But she decided, just to smile and leave him forever. She instantly got the message from within, it’s time, she should leave, that he actually wanted her to leave or he himself wanted to go.. )
Urmi – “Yes, dear, you were so correct, even I had a gut feeling too. My inner voice hinted but I ignored..and I so so deserve this. He used my simplicity to choose a friend for him. I thought of giving him a chance to prove himself a better friend to me, if not to others. I was damn wrong Debby. This taught me, the worldly hush-hush’s aren’t always wrong. There are reasons people say things about others. We should think over them sometimes, I feel now.”
Me – ” Yes, your time was over here Urmi. He so readily judged you, which says it was planned. He wouldn’t have been there in this friendship anymore, how much you’d have justified yourself to him or have kept on trying to convince him. He wouldn’t have taken them. His words say that, Time has finally arrived to bid a goodbye to the ‘friendship’, from which the ‘friend’ is ready to leave the ‘ship’ for you to sail through your life.”
Urmi – “I also chose not to utter a single word Debby., rather smirked a little and left. If he himself can choose to lose a friend like me, randomly, anytime, then he don’t deserve any clarification too.. How am I supposed to ask him the reason behind this sudden comment and beg for any clarification..?? Well and good, I felt bad, so I left. Let him think on it later, and feel sorry all his life.
But yes, I chose to leave on a good note.. Hence, the smile.
Debby, I believe in silent smiles than words. I believe while leaving anyone for lifetime, we don’t need loud arguments, fights or bitter tasting tears. Rather, a simple ‘thank you smile’ which silently conveys everything. It gives quite a clear message, ‘Over and Out.’
In such exits, there remains a benefit of doubt. A way for the other person to realize, feel sorry and come back. But not the same for the smiling lips on the other side. It may be the one saying,..
… Thanks for getting to know the ‘wrong me’, and letting me know the ‘real you’.. thus letting our caged friendship free forever.”
Me – “So so well done Urmi. Yes, definitely,. It completely depends on you, whether you want to give your friendship any second chance or not. You shouldn’t be there anymore, to justify your weirdos. Friendship isn’t about being judgemental or voicing out for clarifications. It’s more about charging the other one, straight on face, to give a way to a clarification., like..
He : “why did you say this..?”
She : “oh, I didn’t mean this..!!”
But here, it was on a different note with a different tone. Which Urmi was quite intelligent to get and quite tender to get hurt. As if a complete judgement was passed.. like..
‘You are like this..!!’
Ok.. Well and good then.. Urmi, well done. You valued his judgement, it shows, you really respected him. So, you valued his words more than him.”
— Feelings from Real life lessons.. 👍🏼😇
(*Names of the characters changed..)